A bridesmaid, with my Dad at my brother and sister-in-law’s wedding
Forget the expression: never the bride! Being a bridesmaid is estimable. More than estimable, actually. Because being a bridesmaid is a privilege, an honor to stand up for a dear friend on her special day. And the bridesmaid dress says it all: the tradition, the formality, the friendship, the love. I have been a bridesmaid seven times. I was a maid of honor once. Most of those times, the brides selected the dresses and I trusted them in the process. And though it has been many years since I donned my varied bridesmaid dresses, I remember each and every one of them like the friends that they were. I wish, in fact, I could see them all together just once more – but since they are no longer close, my memory of them will have to do. I wore hunter green (above), yellow, floral, blue, and turquoise blue. I wore floor-length dresses, tea-length dresses, and knee-length dresses. Like a wedding dress, a bridesmaid dress comes in every style imaginable.
It is prom season, yes. But it is also wedding season. And while we think of brides in their bridal gowns, let’s not forget the bridesmaids who stand with the bride. Like me, you may not keep the dresses as the years pass but you will always remember them. And the love you felt for the bride when you put them on.
Clothes tell a story and are part of our collective history and culture. You may think a scarf is just a scarf, but if that scarf is from Italy it represents so much more. A scarf is a piece of Italian thousand-year history that carries tremendous meaning. Because in Italy, a country whom many consider to be the home of Catholicism, it is a traditional element worn in church as a symbol of humility in front of God. And it’s not just Catholicism: all religions share a scarf tradition. The scarf is worn in churches and temples and mosques.
What many tourists don’t understand is that a church is not a museum or just any building: it is a sanctuary and a place of worship with a dress code that should be followed.
Scarves are everywhere in modern-day Italy. This tradition has evolved into a fashion statement while at the same time never losing its original intention. My friend Myriam just returned from Italy and brought back a scarf for me from Milan. This one simple accessory is telling a huge story …
In Episode Three I share a special keepsake passed down from my grandmother whom I loved dearly. Keepsakes are valuable because they are a way to stay close to someone who was very important in our lives. I’m curious … do you have a special keepsake? Please share your story in the comment section of the blog.
I couldn’t resist one more feature on prom 2013. Eric is my son; he is 16 and a junior in high school. Last night he went to his first prom. There wasn’t much fanfare to prepare for the occasion except to take a trip to the barber shop for a new haircut, rent a tuxedo and shoes and purchase new dress socks. And of course, he selected a corsage for his date. But this story is worth telling because he attended his prom in the very same location where my junior prom was held 36 years ago! That does kind of freak me out but it is special and something that he and I will share forever.
My last prom feature is about my own son and a connection with me, his mom.
Rene Dailey, from Wilmington NC, at the 2013 Kentucky Derby Photo Credit: David Goldman – AP Photos
“Kentucky woman she shines with her own kind of light – She’d look at you once and a day that’s all wrong looks all right – And I love her – God knows I love her – Kentucky Woman …” song and lyrics byNeil Diamond
The Kentucky Derby is an American tradition and one of the few times that we collectively dress with pomp and circumstance. Splendid hats rule the day and we get to be like our British friends across the pond. This particular chapeau caught my eye!