Photo: Lisa Reznik
A big Happy New Year to you! I have been under a rock since New Year’s Eve – sick with bronchitis – and I have missed you! But I am lifting myself out of the dumps and finding my groove again, just in time for the New Year. Making resolutions at the beginning of a year can create major stress, especially when they become impossible goals that only set you up for failure. It’s the same with your approach to fashion – it can seem too overwhelming: be careful of clothing ruts … be more adventurous … stay away from wearing too much black … change your handbag more often … update your wardrobe … get rid of old clothes … dress your age … don’t dress your age … what does that even mean? I think it’s helpful to remember just a few things, going forward. Perhaps sharing my fashion resolutions will inspire you:
Wear what feels right – When you feel good, you look good. That’s the most important thing to remember; if I am uncomfortable in a certain blouse or a pair of shoes, I will know it and others will too. It doesn’t matter that it’s the style-of-the-moment or a popular designer. If it doesn’t feel right to you then it isn’t. Protect your inner confidence with the right clothing and the rest will take care of itself.
Find clothes that fit – Make sure everything you put on fits you. And if it doesn’t and you love it, then have a tailor fix it. Truly, your tailor can be your new best friend. Let the clothing bring out the best in you with a true-match fit.
Start from the inside – A good fit starts with the right bra. Take care to update your bras every 6 months, Everything will look better and you will be inspired to watch your posture, too. In fact, check all of your undergarments to make sure they are worthy of you!
Watch for fashion waste – Don’t buy what you absolutely don’t love or don’t need. Wear only what you love. Let go of the rest and share it with someone else.
Try lipstick – I can’t have a happy day without my lipstick. It is the best picker-upper I know.
A few years ago I revamped my closet
The New Year is a time to regroup and give yourself a break with a clean slate. When I looked at my closet a week ago I knew a clean slate for me would start with a clean closet. What a mess! I could no longer see my wardrobe pieces clearly and that was when I knew: you can’t style what you can’t see. I also knew that I had forgotten what my dear friend Kim taught me just a few years ago – I was holding on to things that were no longer right for me. How had I let this happen in such a short time?
Two years ago I met my beloved and talented friend, style editor, Kim Naci, who had come to my house for a closet audit and frankly, a bit of an emotional ‘what for?” She took a brutal look at my clothes – what I should keep and what I should let go. And her message? Love everything you own, and if you don’t – then remove it – immediately! Because you are worth it and you deserve to wear only the right clothes. Kim’s words about a somewhat threadbare black handbag that I had been clinging to still haunt me when she said: “Melissa, you’re better than that!” We are all better than that. The truth is that we all accumulate too much, hang on too much and wear too much that does’t work and that we just don’t love. Most of the time we don’t even know we are doing it or why. But as we continue this pattern we are not caring for ourselves and we certainly aren’t making room for the clothes and accessories we should be wearing. They simply get lost in the overflow. You can find yourself reaching for the same (wrong) pieces and creating the same outfits over again without hitting your true potential.
A closet cleanse is an organizational and emotional breakthrough. Weeding out the wrong and keeping the right makes you feel better about yourself. And creating a beautiful space for your wardrobe is just as important (even down to using proper hangers and storage organizers). They all create a feeling of self-worth and love – just in time for the New Year.
New Year, Young You: The New Year is a good time to take stock and look closely at how you dress. Because you could be aging yourself without knowing it and that will in turn affect your self image. And the simplest of changes can make a huge difference. Style guru and fashion consultant Tim Gunn offers helpful tips for staying wardrobe fresh and youthful in the More Magazine feature: ‘How Not to Dress Old.’ Here are a few of my favorite pointers from Tim:
– “With slacks, find the right cut for your shape, then make it just right with a little tailoring.”
– “Classics are classic – but that doesn’t mean they’re impervious to the wear and tear of time. Make sure your basics look fresh and modern, replacing when necessary.”
– “If you’ve had the same sweater hanging on the back of your desk chair for years, replace it! There’s a variety of cardigan options …”
– “The quickest way to age yourself? Slipping on out-of-fashion denim.”
– “Casual weekends need not be schlumpy. Incorporate cashmere for seriously luxurious time off.”
– “Break out of a purse-coma with a fresh shape (clutch) and shade that’ll shock you back to the style present.”
~ Tim Gunn
New Year, Young You. You deserve to dress well and age well, too.
… and into a New Year. I often find myself walking in the woods to clear my mind and open my heart. I guess you could say that I am trying literally, to set the path for my life. Here I am again, thinking good thoughts and wishing everyone a very Happy New Year! Here’s to the brightest 2015!
Outfit: Rebecca Taylor sweater, Frame Denim jeans, L.L. Bean shoes, Misaharada cap
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Oh, the windows of New York!
Whenever I am in New York, especially at holiday time, I come alive … much like Farnoosh’s sister, Fara. The walking and the windows are a constant source of energy and inspiration. And so, when my mom and I had the chance to meet our friend Jodie for omelets and coffee at our favorite spot, Pastis, I jumped at it! New Year, New York, New You! New Me!
What do you think?
breakfast at Pastis