Stay Chic, You Mother-Warrior!

Photo Credit: Cheryl Kaplan

Photo Credit: Cheryl Kaplan

It’s not easy being a mother. The worry – the drama – the expectations – the carpooling. Everything is more challenging for the average mother-warrior. Even and perhaps especially, finding the familiar sense of self and style. My theory is that the minute we have a child we embrace that glorious heart-pounding new role of mother, while at the same time begin the internal struggle to stay the same person. Of course, we will never be the same; we have been elevated to a new purpose. But where does our style go and do we get it back?

The answer is yes, but it takes time and patience and acceptance. When my first child was born I was living in Manhattan, with access to boutiques filled with one-of-a-kind clothes. When I could finally get out of my overalls (as seen here) I dressed in outfits that screamed: “I am still Melissa – no baby-Mamma here!” Even though I had a baby in tow and became a master with my stroller (both on the streets and in the subway) – I did it in heels. I was determined to be me and that meant dress the way I always had. Of course, that was possible with one child. When my second child arrived and we moved to New Jersey things changed. The single stroller was replaced with a double and heels couldn’t give me the traction I needed to push! I had to re-learn how to drive and that required more comfortable clothes for getting in and out of the car. Worst of all, gone was my access to the boutiques and one-of-a-kind looks. I was now forced to select mass-marketed clothes – at least while my children were younger and until I understood the lay of the suburban land. Continue reading

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xox Betsey

Betsey and Lulu Johnson

Betsey and Lulu Johnson

You may want to spend part of your Mother’s Day with designer Betsey Johnson and her daughter, Lulu. Tonight the Style Network will launch the season premier of: xox Betsey. A little over a year ago Betsey Johnson filed for bankruptcy but as she herself says, “The stores are gone, but I’m not!” Which is a very good thing, and I can’t wait to see more of Betsey Johnson! She is a fashion favorite, ever since my mother introduced me to her in the mid 1970s when she took over the fashion label Alley Cat. I will never forget (and I wish I could find) the red plaid corduroy Alley Cat blazer designed by Betsey Johnson. It was divine. I borrowed it from my mother and she never saw it again.

I imagine xox Betsey will be a loving tribute to mothers and daughters everywhere and a lot like Betsey Johnson-the-designer herself: bold, bright, edgy, cooky, a lot of fun and original! I’ll be watching!

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Happy Mother’s Day, Beautiful!

My mother with us at the beach

Making a decision to have a child–it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body – Elizabeth Stone

Mothers are gifts, and beautiful and glamorous. Happy Mother’s Day to all!  With love, Melissa

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