It’s Morning: What to Wear??

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It’s a dilemma for sure, but not in the way you would imagine. One of the joys of dressing has always been the spontaneity of it. I dress to express myself, to match my inner feelings with my outer shell – always in the moment. Since starting my full-time job however, (I just celebrated my one year anniversary!), waiting to choose what to wear for the morning has become really stressful for me. And so I force myself to think about it the night before. Sometimes there are last-minute decisions about shoes or other accessories, but for the most part, I have let go to make room for a less stressful morning. Like many of us who work full-time, drinking that first cup of coffee is about the only thing possible in the morning!

Photo: Kim Naci

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Remembering My Style During Summer Vacation

My go-to dress in the summer - by Splendid: photo by Kim Naci

My go-to dress in the summer – by Splendid: photo by Kim Naci

I have been on vacation this week. After spending a few days in a lovely beach town, I was reminded of an essential fashion fact: stay true to your own style. This is a lesson hard-learned, especially growing up a woman. It starts in the middle school years – that feeling that you have to look like everyone else in order to fit in. And so you tell your mom that you have to have a certain kind of clothing in order to be successful (your mom, wanting to help you, will be tempted to succumb to your whims in order to help!). It gets better once you enter high school and begin the process of wanting to stand out – even if just a bit. And so you experiment with new styles and explore different attitudes, but the truth is that the need to fit in rears its head at different points in your life, especially when you find yourself in new environments. It did again for me when I started college – a very preppy college – and found myself in a sea of pink and green with nothing to wear! (I have shared the story of how my darling mother bought me several fair isle sweaters in various colors while on my first break from school freshman year. I returned with my sweaters and wore them a few times before leaving them in the closet for good and embracing my true style). Moving on in life, with each new setting, with each transition, the need to fit in is a tempting pull.

But the beauty of growing up and finding your way is identifying when you know yourself and your style. And even though you may feel unsure entering a new environment, you eventually realize that your individual style is what will help you feel stronger – on your own. When I walked through this beautiful town on the beach I wanted very much to treat myself to a piece of clothing – something that would always remind me of being on holiday. But I couldn’t find it. Everything looked the same to me and though the style of the town was lovely – it wasn’t mine. I didn’t want to look like everyone else; I wanted to look like me.  So I left the beach having bought nothing, wearing my tried-and-true jean shorts with a tee, and the last favorite article of clothing I bought on summer holiday a few years ago: my black dress.

 

 

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Kim Naci Explains the Sunglass Mystique

Kim Naci gets framed!

Kim Naci gets framed!

IMG_8073On a recent Thursday night, my friend, stylist Kim Naci, and the editors of Marie Claire Magazine, hosted a sunglass shopping party at Solstice Sunglasses, as they unveiled their latest collection. Favorites like Marc Jacobs, Boss, Fendi, and Kate Spade, were the stars. Yet Kim believes that sunglasses are much more than a fashionable and stylish accessory; they are essential if we wish to reveal the person on the inside. Says Kim: “It’s the accessory that protects and provokes all at once! Sunglasses allow us to play a character while observing the world behind the safety of a dark lens. Feeling glamorous or just concealing a set of peepers that had too many martinis last night? Go bold with a pair of Dior Envol. Feeling frisky? Slip on a pair of Givenchy Cat Eyes. Reveal nothing yet speak volumes.

 

 

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A Fashion Show for my Mom

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I spent my younger days shopping with my mom. In fact, I spent the sweetest part of my life with her next to me in the dressing room. As soon as I hit my teens she would take me to shop for myself; I remember visiting jeans stores where I would try on colorful bell-bottoms and Huckapoo shirts (it was the 70’s!). My mom would also take me to her favorite shopping spots; stores like the then-small boutique, Ann Taylor, where I learned more about young designers and style and dressing from the most stylish woman I have ever known. Continue reading

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Why I Celebrate the New Year with a Closet Cleanse

A few years ago I revamped my closet

A few years ago I revamped my closet

The New Year is a time to regroup and give yourself a break with a clean slate. When I looked at my closet a week ago I knew a clean slate for me would start with a clean closet. What a mess! I could no longer see my wardrobe pieces clearly and that was when I knew: you can’t style what you can’t see. I also knew that I had forgotten what my dear friend Kim taught me just a few years ago – I was holding on to things that were no longer right for me. How had I let this happen in such a short time?

Two years ago I met my beloved and talented friend, style editor, Kim Naci, who had come to my house for a closet audit and frankly, a bit of an emotional ‘what for?” She took a brutal look at my clothes – what I should keep and what I should let go. And her message? Love everything you own, and if you don’t – then remove it – immediately! Because you are worth it and you deserve to wear only the right clothes. Kim’s words about a somewhat threadbare black handbag that I had been clinging to still haunt me when she said: “Melissa, you’re better than that!” We are all better than that. The truth is that we all accumulate too much, hang on too much and wear too much that does’t work and that we just don’t love. Most of the time we don’t even know we are doing it or why. But as we continue this pattern we are not caring for ourselves and we certainly aren’t making room for the clothes and accessories we should be wearing. They simply get lost in the overflow. You can find yourself reaching for the same (wrong) pieces and creating the same outfits over again without hitting your true potential.

A closet cleanse is an organizational and emotional breakthrough. Weeding out the wrong and keeping the right makes you feel better about yourself. And creating a beautiful space for your wardrobe is just as important (even down to using proper hangers and storage organizers). They all create a feeling of self-worth and love – just in time for the New Year.

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Why Birthdays Make You Think … About Your Clothes

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Today is my birthday; I will be celebrating with my family and friends and I will think about the clothes I wear. Not because I care about the clothes (which I do) but because I care that I am presenting the best version of me to the world. Sure there is the inevitable I am a year older and what am I doing with my life?’ question. But mostly, birthdays make me think about what it means to be the best version of myself. Since starting this blog three years ago I have been pondering the connection between the clothes we wear and how they make us feel about ourselves. The older I get the more I see that the outer covering is a direct reflection of the inner me. If I take time to give my daily wardrobe attention I am saying to myself that I matter and that I am worth the effort.

This is the outfit I am choosing to wear today – my birthday – this time of inner reflection.

Photo by Kim Naci; dress, Splendid

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A Styling Tip that Helps Your Hips

Removing the inside pocket and sealing it

Removing the inside pocket and sealing it creates a clean line

Here is a simple tip that will help you look your best: remove the inside of the pockets of your trousers and seal them up. That’s it. When Kim Naci helped me clean out my closet a few years ago, this one simple notion changed everything. Here is why: side pockets add bulk and lines that aren’t needed. And who wants extra bulk at the hips?

Then and there I methodically took several pants and trousers to the tailor and asked her to remove the inside pockets and seal them. Everything became smoother and cleaner and more slimming – what was old became new again. These white pants are several years old; when I pulled them out of the closet I noticed that I neglected to remove the inside pockets. Now they are like-new.

Why not check your trousers this Memorial Day weekend and do the same? This single, simple style alteration is as important as any exercise or dietary change you can do to get ready for the summer months. Your body will thank you! Happy Summer!

 

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Kim Naci’s LUSTY Adventure!

Kim Naci

Kim Naci

Meeting fashion therapist and stylist Kim Naci changed my life. She gave me (someone who has always loved what clothes can do for my sense of self) more confidence and understanding that I am worth the time and the effort to dress my best. Until I met Kim and had her clear out my closet and my mental cobwebs, I wasn’t treating myself the best that I could. It was her skill yes, but it was much more than that; it was Kim’s huge heart, warmth, and wit. I just wanted to hug her all the time! So last fall, when Kim told me that she was working on a secret television assignment, I knew it would be special. And it was. Kim has been working as the lead stylist on the TLC series with fashion expert, Stacy London: Love, Lust, or Run! (The show airs Friday nights at 9/8C). Yes, tune in tonight to see this heartwarming fashion ‘make-under’ experience. But in the meantime, here is Kim to tell us about the show from a bird’s-eye view …

MKG: How long have you known Stacy London?

KIM: Stacy and I met over 4 years ago during the launch of her {now defunct} agency Style For Hire. I was tapped by Stacy to execute a training workshop for the incoming stylists.

MKG: The moment you were told you would be the lead stylist of Stacy London’s new show, Love, Lust, or Run – what went through your mind?

KIM: Great question! Until then, my experience had been styling private clients and magazines, both digital and print. This was going to be my first foray into television which had been long-time goal. And what better way than to join my friend and colleague, Stacy London? Continue reading

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Stacy London is Back on TLC!

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Stacy London returns to TLC — Photo: Stephanie Diani/Discovery

Does the world see you as you see yourself?” ~ Stacy London, Love, Lust, or Run!

I have missed seeing Stacy London on TLC. In 2013, Stacy’s show, What Not To Wear, ended its 10-year run. But tonight Stacy London is back on TLC with the series premiere, Love, Lust, or Run! The new series is still fashion-focused but it will be more of a fashion make under! Viewers will be introduced to women in need of a dress down of their over-the-top looks as Stacy asks them to strip everything away to reveal their true selves. I sense inspiration will follow these transformations.

And there is more good news! My friend and fashion stylist, Kim Naci, is working on the show, as the lead stylist behind the scenes. This is too good to be true.

Tune in tonight at 9pm to watch Stacy London and Kim Naci work their magic!

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When it comes to our hair, no more should messages!

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P1040986Hair colorist, Isak, opened my eyes earlier this week, when he talked about society’s should messages about hair and age. I realize that for the last 20 years, I have slowly but surely cut my hair, as I reached certain ages and stages in my life. And you know what? I no longer like wearing my hair shorter! So, I have changed that. In today’s podcast, I talk about these harmful should messages and remind us to stay clear of them!

Photo by Kim Naci

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