I dedicate this post to my dear friend, Michal, who is moving tomorrow, returning to her home in Israel. Michal took this picture of me for a feature I wrote about how my exercising changed when I treated myself to the right clothes. You see, a few years ago I came to Michal’s class uncertain and fearful. I hadn’t exercised in years and I was feeling my age. I began to exercise in sweats and shame. Every moment was uncomfortable for me. But Michal made me see the light – that movement and good heath and vibrancy were not only possible but doable! Yes, I bought the right clothes and spent the money at Lululemon to step up my game, but that was only the beginning. It was working with Michal and having her support me every week that really changed me. She helped me to see that movement will always keep me strong, and that I deserve to feel good. She helped me to feel my inner power, dare I say – Goddess – and push away the fear that was holding me back. I am not saying that I never feel fear; I do, but I am different now. I now look at the fear and keep moving forward.
I, and our wonderful class of new friends, will miss you, Michal. But you are in our lives forever. And you must know that you gave me a gift that is taking me forward as I hope to age gracefully and powerfully. There is an expression: Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Thank you for giving me my first day. Love you.
A bridesmaid, with my Dad at my brother and sister-in-law’s wedding
Forget the expression: never the bride! Being a bridesmaid is estimable. More than estimable, actually. Because being a bridesmaid is a privilege, an honor to stand up for a dear friend on her special day. And the bridesmaid dress says it all: the tradition, the formality, the friendship, the love. I have been a bridesmaid seven times. I was a maid of honor once. Most of those times, the brides selected the dresses and I trusted them in the process. And though it has been many years since I donned my varied bridesmaid dresses, I remember each and every one of them like the friends that they were. I wish, in fact, I could see them all together just once more – but since they are no longer close, my memory of them will have to do. I wore hunter green (above), yellow, floral, blue, and turquoise blue. I wore floor-length dresses, tea-length dresses, and knee-length dresses. Like a wedding dress, a bridesmaid dress comes in every style imaginable.
It is prom season, yes. But it is also wedding season. And while we think of brides in their bridal gowns, let’s not forget the bridesmaids who stand with the bride. Like me, you may not keep the dresses as the years pass but you will always remember them. And the love you felt for the bride when you put them on.
Miranda’s prom dress – look at that detail in the back!
Miranda is a senior in high school and will be going to her prom in early June. Here is what Miranda shared with me about prom, now …
“It was very hard to find a dress; it took me two months of on-line shopping. I decided to do all of my shopping on-line because I knew I would find the right proportions. I am over 5′ 7″ and I wanted the right fit, and these days on-line shopping provides accurate measurements. When I saw this dress it really stuck with me. It’s a light pink and feminine style. The popular colors of the season for girls are nude, soft pink, dark blue/navy blue and red. And yes, I have posted it on Facebook already, noting the color, so that others will know what I’m wearing and not copy it. Most girls are doing this …
To prepare for the prom, I will be getting my hair and professional makeup done at a salon. No spray tanning for me. I tried it two years ago and I did not like it! Too much orange! I will also be getting a mani-pedi …
I am happy to go to my prom. Sometimes it’s overrated; people say it’s the second most important day after your wedding day. I think that’s silly. But it is a special day. It makes girls feel really beautiful and it boosts confidence. All the girls are so nice to each at prom; they compliment each other and wish each other well. That doesn’t always happen with girls, you know. But on this day, there is a positive atmosphere and a judgement-free-zone for all of high school …” ~ Miranda