A funny thing happened to me when I became a mother for the first time: I began to cut my hair shorter. I guess I was looking for more serious hair to match this serious moment in my life. I didn’t cut it super short (to above my shoulders) but the trend lasted for a while. I wonder what it was that made me do it. Was it my age? Did I think that at a certain age a woman should wear her hair shorter, or that society would expect that of me? I think yes. Has this happened to anyone else? Now, 20+ years later, I have found myself again. It is with great joy that I am growing out my hair (and have changed my hair stylist, who is my partner in the process). Because except for a short stint as a 3 year-old when I had a pixie cut with bangs, I have always worn my hair long. It feels most like me. And why should I feel less like me as I get older? Why should I follow an idea of what it means to age, especially when it just doesn’t fit me? Why should I conform to what I think society expects of me when I don’t want it for myself? It is the same with clothes and dressing. You must always be yourself, in all your life moments – and love who you are meant to be.
One of the things that we must all endure as we age is the subtle changes in our body and certainly, our hair. Hard to notice at first, but shifting hormones change the consistency of our hair and losing lustre and thinning strands becomes a reality that eventually cannot be overlooked. Our hair represents the pinnacle of our youth and vitality; as that shifts it can affect our self image. For years I took the care of my hair for granted, simply washing it before leaving the house. As I got older I wasn’t prepared for the changes in my hair.
There are things we can do, however, to help turn back time. The answer for me came a few years ago in the form of a late-night infomercial. As I flipped through the television channels one night I found a commercial for WEN® Cleansing Conditioner by Chaz Dean. I have been using WEN® for the last few years and today I wake up to hair that looks and feels like it did in its younger days. You may want to try WEN® or there may be another product that works for you. Whichever you choose, just don’t give up on your hair.
Note: Turning Fashion Inside Out and Melissa Kaplan Guarino were not compensated for this endorsement. All opinions are my own.
Photo by Lauren Hagerstrom
Monica has blue eyes and full curly hair which she has had all her life. Not so unusual to me, but for Monica who has grown up in San Juan, Puerto Rico, it is. Unusual and a big deal. Because most women in Puerto Rico choose to straighten their hair and spend much of their day (a good portion of their beauty regime) making sure they remove their natural curl. But Monica is different and not afraid to be original. She is also the mother of three young girls, ages 10, 9, and 6, and Monica is teaching them to embrace their luxurious curly hair and their differences too. She is fashion-forward and courageous.
Here is Monica …
“There are many factors why the women of Puerto Rico follow certain beauty rituals. One is that it’s warm here all year-round. Body hair has to be impeccable: that means shaved legs and underarms and bikini waxes. Everyone wears sandals all-year so getting pedicures is a regular ritual as well. I don’t bother with manicures but I keep my nails short and clean – and I almost always have a pedicure …
Another factor is that in Puerto Rico fashion is a status symbol. It tells others that you can afford certain things. People follow fashion but they are not individuals.They are followers. Continue reading
I, like many of us, am very sensitive about my hair. If I am having a bad hair day it is hard for me to think of anything else. And so a few years ago when I discovered WEN cleansing conditioner for my hair created by Chaz Dean, I started to view my hair in a whole new light. My hair began to feel softer and as my hair became bouncier, I felt lighter and better about myself. It’s as if I turned back the clock and gave myself the gift of younger-looking hair. I know I’m not alone. Many people are waking up to the joy of WEN hair care. Chaz has a vision to help more people feel like me by creating chemical-free, healthy products for our hair. Here is Chaz …
MKG: What has been the driving force behind creating WEN?
CD: I believe everyone has the ability to have beautiful, healthy, shiny hair and with WEN everyone can attain their best hair. Giving everyone the hair they have always dreamed of is one of the reasons I created WEN and continue to do so.
MKG: Why is our hair so important to us?
CD: Hair and skin are really important to how a person feels about him/herself. It is how others see you and how you present yourself to others. Having beautiful, healthy hair and skin is a confidence booster and helps build positive self esteem.
MKG: What happens when someone uses WEN for the first time?
CD: The first thing that most people notice the first time they use WEN is how soft and shiny their hair is. With continuous use they say their hair has never been more manageable, healthy, soft and shiny. It just gets better and better.
MKG: What is your vision for the future of WEN?
CD: My vision for WEN is to keep educating, motivating, and empowering people by enhancing their natural beauty.
MKG: What is something about you that most of us wouldn’t know?
CD: Most people know I travel a lot; what they don’t know is that I bring my own blanket and “My Pillow.” ~ Chaz Dean
Chaz Dean is dedicated to helping each of us feel and look our best. I think I’m lucky we met …
What do you think?
Samantha is a junior in high school and she is my friend Karen’s daughter. I have known her for her entire life. In fact, I have known her since she was in her mother’s womb. After speaking with Samantha today I find it hard to believe that she is the same age that her mom and I were when we met. Here is Samantha on prepping for the prom …
“I will be going to two proms this year: my boyfriend’s school prom is this Thursday and my school prom is May 17th. Almost from the minute I was invited, I started to feel pressure to find a dress, about two months ago. I began my search at the malls but found nothing and then searched on-line and didn’t find anything there either. Fortunately, I finally discovered two dresses at a local consignment shop, each for under $50! I know some girls who are spending up to $600 for just one dress, so two for $100 is quite a find for me. One is a mint green, contemporary style; the other is a black and silver vintage dress. They both fit well which is important to me. I needed to make a few slight adjustments to the mint green and I took it to a tailor. I have a pair of silver shoes that are a fine back up but I am hoping to find another pair before the proms. Recently, I wasn’t as sure about the black dress (I think because I’m not as comfortable wearing black in the spring). My boyfriend took me to the mall where I found a deep purple strapless dress with silver embellishment. I love it! I used gift cards to purchase the dress, so again, I was lucky …
I did feel pressure to purchase two dresses, partly because of the pictures that we will be taking, but mostly because my friends will be wearing two dresses. If they were wearing one dress for both of their proms I would probably do the same …
I decided to post my dresses to a Facebook page made for my school that exhibits every girls’ dresses. But I didn’t do the same for my boyfriend’s school. I found out that someone else will be wearing my dress at his prom but I’m okay with that because there will be many people. I will be getting a mani-pedi this week as well as having a spray-tan. I had an appointment to do my hair professionally at a salon but I think I will do it myself and save the money …
I think the biggest differences between going to the prom then, when you and my mom went, and today, are: the dresses are more outrageously priced, the preparation for the prom is more intense, and there is much more pressure from your friends to prepare in a certain way …
I am excited to go to the prom. Right now, though, I am thinking more about the preparation than the actual prom. I think that many girls feel the way I do and enjoy the preparation more than anything else.” ~ Samantha
I think that Samantha shows us that pressure from friends continues to be a big deal in high school. And no one should underestimate the power of the image in today’s world.
What do you think?
to be continued …
Miranda is a senior in high school and will be going to her prom in early June. Here is what Miranda shared with me about prom, now …
“It was very hard to find a dress; it took me two months of on-line shopping. I decided to do all of my shopping on-line because I knew I would find the right proportions. I am over 5′ 7″ and I wanted the right fit, and these days on-line shopping provides accurate measurements. When I saw this dress it really stuck with me. It’s a light pink and feminine style. The popular colors of the season for girls are nude, soft pink, dark blue/navy blue and red. And yes, I have posted it on Facebook already, noting the color, so that others will know what I’m wearing and not copy it. Most girls are doing this …
To prepare for the prom, I will be getting my hair and professional makeup done at a salon. No spray tanning for me. I tried it two years ago and I did not like it! Too much orange! I will also be getting a mani-pedi …
I am happy to go to my prom. Sometimes it’s overrated; people say it’s the second most important day after your wedding day. I think that’s silly. But it is a special day. It makes girls feel really beautiful and it boosts confidence. All the girls are so nice to each at prom; they compliment each other and wish each other well. That doesn’t always happen with girls, you know. But on this day, there is a positive atmosphere and a judgement-free-zone for all of high school …” ~ Miranda
to be continued …
I have told tales about my favorite hair cleansing conditioner: Wen, by Chaz Dean. I have an addendum to my story. Originally, I told you that Wen is a one-step process for your hair: cleansing, conditioning, de-tangling and deep conditioning with one product. But I have learned there is more to it. In actuality, it is a two-rinse (with the cleansing conditioner) and two-product process (adding a styling creme). I have been wearing my hair a little longer, and I noticed recently that it hasn’t been as shiny. When I spoke to the Wen Studio to find out why, I learned that I wasn’t using the product properly and correctly. I bought the 32-oz bottle of the cleansing conditioner and have been using too much per cleanse. For my hair length, I should be using fewer pumps: 12 pumps for the initial rinse and 12 pumps for the leave-in/rinse for a total of 24 pumps (I used 24 pumps twice – for each rinse – which was too much, leaving my hair more flat than shiny!), with a dime-sized amount at the ends as a leave-in conditioner. I also learned that I need to add another dime-sized amount of the leave-in styling creme after using the cleansing conditioner. Without that, my hair will not have the shine and shimmer I am looking for because the styling creme completes the process and protects your hair. So, WEN is most effective as a two-product process and it is important to use the proper number of pumps according to the size of your container.
I found WEN customer service to be extremely helpful in navigating this process and explaining what to do, and it is so worth it for the most luxurious and softest hair I have ever known! Learn from my mistake; If you decide to try WEN, take time to follow the steps. I think you will love the results, as I do. Then, all of us can be Wen girls!
What do you think?
My ears perk up when I see or hear stylist/designer Rachel Zoe on television. I have been a fan of her work for a long time and there is no doubt that she is an influential force in fashion. I caught her today on ABC’s Good Morning America discussing two new ventures: the unveiling of her Fall 2013 collection at New York’s Fashion Week, and the launch of her new company, Dream Dry. The concept of Dream Dry is simply to provide clientele on-the-spot (40 minutes or less) dream blowouts by a team of professionals. Led by Rachel Zoe and her partner, Robin Moraetes, Dream Dry salon is set to launch this week in New York City with plans for upcoming locations around the country. Ms. Zoe explained that there are several classic-styled looks from which to choose, each inspired by her favorite icons, including Brigitte Bardot and Audrey Hepburn.
Hair styling and makeup application complete the fashion picture for Rachel Zoe. As she said this morning, “If the hair is wrong your whole outfit is garbage!”
Taking the blow-dry concept to another level with personalized styling salons is a growing trend and I think we will be hearing more about it.
What do you think?
Lather. Rinse. Repeat. This is the rhythm of hair washing and we do it every day or every other day, or at the very least, every few days. We have been doing it all our lives, but these days hair washing has become much more complex – and expensive. It is shampooing and conditioning and detangling and sometimes, deep conditioning. If you are like me, you are a little nuts about your hair and are willing to pay for quality hair products. I have tried several different brands in search of the perfect combination. What I never knew was that by using these traditional products, many of which contain harsh chemicals, I was actually stripping and damaging my hair.
Two years ago a bout of insomnia led me to a new way of cleansing my hair. I had never heard of WEN before and as I watched the infomercial I knew that it was something different. A few days later, I saw WEN creator, Chaz Dean, on QVC and this time I decided to try it. Now I know that I will never go back to traditional shampoo. I am a WEN girl.
What exactly is WEN? Not a shampoo, WEN is actually a cleansing conditioner, free of the chemical sodium lauryl sulfate. And because WEN cleanses and conditions, it is a one-product process. It does the cleansing and conditioning and detangling and deep conditioning all in one. You won’t see lather because it is the chemicals that create the suds. But what you will see is clean, soft, shiny hair. And if you color your hair, as I do, WEN actually protects and maintains the color longer than traditional shampoo. Chaz Dean, Los Angeles-based hair stylist and colorist, created WEN in 1993 after seeing his clients’ damaged hair. He developed a natural alternative to the traditional shampoo and now, he is my new best friend.
You may find yourself pulling an all-nighter and catching the infomercial. Or you may see Chaz Dean on QVC (the most cost-effective way to purchase WEN by the way). If you do, consider trying it as a gift to you and your hair. You won’t be lathering, but the rinsing and repeating is the same.
Ask yourself: if not now … WEN?
What do you think?
(by the way, I use Pomegranate and my teenage sons use it, too!)
The last few days have been tough. A build-up of heavy humidity resulting in: bad hair. To add insult to injury, I have just cut my hair and it will take a good week for me to feel like myself again.
Isn’t it too early in the season for so much humidity? What is a girl to do?
For starters, let’s take a deep breath. All will be well. These are crazy weather days and we have to try to adapt. Second, feel the love for yourself. Today is a new day and the forecasters say … gorgeous with low humidity.
What do you think?