Here is part two of my conversation with Jillian. I started off by saying …
Jillian, I am now 52. There is a big question about what is age-appropriate at every age, but it seems especially important for women making the transition in their late 40s and early 50s. How can makeup help us or hurt us at this age?
“Oh the transition!” she said with a sigh 🙂 This is a big one, and one that I didn’t understand until I made it myself. I remember being a thirty-something makeup artist and telling women in their forties and fifties … ‘So what? You’re gorgeous! Who cares?’ Their response: ‘You won’t understand until it happens to you.’ Now I get it! Here is the thing: We are all going to age, no one is exempt. Once you accept it and truly decide to be fabulous in your own skin you’re practically there. My friend Quentin Phelps, an amazing artist/stylist, said it best: ‘You’re a woman, so own it!’
So, ladies in your forties and fifties, you are no longer the ingénue … so, be the Goddess!!!
Here are some of the biggest mistakes women make as they age:
Hanging on desperately to the makeup from the era in which they grew up. You cannot wear the same makeup you wore twenty years ago. It is a tell-tale sign of age. (This includes hair styles). Solution — Try an adjusted version of what you are comfortable wearing. Instead of using lots of shadow and mascara, try a smudge of taupe or gray with a good eyeliner and some mascara.
Wearing a heavy, full face of makeup everyday, and at every place, including the gym. Solution — Take it down a few notches, and go to your essentials. You will look fresher if you adjust your makeup to where you are and what you are doing.
Wearing too much foundation and powder and trying to sculpt the face with darker shades. Solution — If you want to look fresh and more youthful, get that skin hydrated and use only a drop of foundation. If you need your powder, instead of using a pad, try using a really fluffy brush and dust lightly. Never sculpt the face, unless you are sitting for a soft focus photo or under very dim light. And even then, make sure a professional helps you! It usually ends up just looking like dated streaks of brown. As we age we lose collagen and we want the face to look softer. Use an over color complexion enhancer or soft bronzer to get the skin to glow.
And some women do the opposite and decide that they shouldn’t wear any makeup. This is aging, too… Just because you are more mature doesn’t mean you can’t look gorgeous and still feel like yourself. Don’t give up. Be true to yourself. If you have always been a natural girl you can still keep it simple. But just like women who wear too much makeup and need to tone it down, you may have to take it up a notch. Solution — Try a tinted moisturizer or a lip gloss – whatever makes you comfortable.
How would you describe the connection between makeup and self-esteem? What have you noticed about that connection?
It depends on the woman. I believe you should do what makes you happy and confident. Confidence is the number one key to beauty.
Has your makeup regimen changed since you first started?
Yes! At 25, I would go to bed with a full face of makeup after being up all night. And I would go outside without sunscreen. I wouldn’t dream of it now; at 48, if I stay up all night, my face screams I’m tired! And we all know that the sun is extremely damaging and aging to the skin. You have to adjust everything with age. From the 20s to the 90s we are in a continuous state of aging and changing: adjust all routines, diet, exercise and skin care, according to what your body and your skin need. Keep your skin clean, exfoliate, (Retin A is great for skin) moisturize, take vitamins, drink tons of water, don’t smoke, use SPF 50, and sleep at least 6 to 8 hours a night!” ~ Jillian
I appreciate this time with you Jillian. I am embracing my inner Goddess now!
What do you think? Will you too?
Jillian applying makeup