The Bridesmaid Dress

I, as a bridesmaid, with my Dad at my brother and sister-in-law's wedding

A  bridesmaid, with my Dad at my brother and sister-in-law’s wedding

Forget the expression: never the bride! Being a bridesmaid is estimable. More than estimable, actually. Because being a bridesmaid is a privilege, an honor to stand up for a dear friend on her special day. And the bridesmaid dress says it all: the tradition, the formality, the friendship, the love. I have been a bridesmaid seven times. I was a maid of honor once. Most of those times, the brides selected the dresses and I trusted them in the process. And though it has been many years since I donned my varied bridesmaid dresses, I remember each and every one of them like the friends that they were. I wish, in fact, I could see them all together just once more – but since they are no longer close, my memory of them will have to do. I wore hunter green (above), yellow, floral, blue, and turquoise blue. I wore floor-length dresses, tea-length dresses, and knee-length dresses. Like a wedding dress, a bridesmaid dress comes in every style imaginable.

It is prom season, yes. But it is also wedding season. And while we think of brides in their bridal gowns, let’s not forget the bridesmaids who stand with the bride. Like me, you may not keep the dresses as the years pass but you will always remember them. And the love you felt for the bride when you put them on.

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9 thoughts on “The Bridesmaid Dress

  1. What a great picture of you & your dad. He looks so stylish…obviously it runs in the family!

    What’s also impressive to me is how classic & timeless you both look. That picture could have been taken any time.

    My poor bridesmaids wore pale green gowns with a bow in the back. They were pretty simple for the time, but scream 1980s now!

    • Thank you so much, Josephine! We had a wonderful time at this special family wedding. I think it shows in our faces! I love the 80s! So grateful to have been a part of that one-of-a-kind era! xx Mel

    • Alice, thank you! I don’t have too many photos of just me and my dad – it’s nice to have this one. I agree. xx Mel

  2. I cant help but think your attitude in THIS particular piece shows our “Oscar & Felix” friendship more then anything else I have ever read! YOU are so kind and classic and always see the beauty in everything, even the bride’s maid dresses you wore!

    I was, as I called it, a professional bride’s maid through the 90s! Most of my dresses were absolutely hideous! And though I was really touched to hold such a position of high honor…I was miserable & couldn’t give those things away quick enough! The best of all was the time I was like 8 months pregnant with daughter #1 and I wore a dark blue, floor length dress. I will never forget my uncle Steven, Aunt Susie’s husband, commenting, “Who made that dress? Omar the tent maker!” yeah…so, that is how I “roll” on the subject!

    For my own wedding, I let my bride’s maids pick any dress they wanted as long as it was not white! The only other proviso was that it had to be above the knee. We had a late afternoon wedding! I think they were all pretty happy with that decision…as I saw them all wearing those dresses on several other occasions!

    Long live “Felix & Oscar”! I love you til the end of time, my dear, dear sweet friend!

    • Kylie, excuse me while I peel myself off the floor from laughing so hard! Once again, you made my day with your comments. You do understand the job of professional bridesmaid, that’s for sure. And being 8 months pregnant in a full-length dress would make anyone miserable! I am with you on that. I love that you gave your own bridesmaids full pick of whatever dress they wanted (other than white – good call!). That guaranteed that they would be comfortable and confident in their choice. Well done! Thanks again for the laugh and for your loving comments. xx Mel

  3. What a beautiful way of paying tribute to friends who chose you to be part of their day in such a special way. I didn’t have bridesmaids for my wedding and have been a bridesmaid only once. Your post, however, made me appreciate more those friends who with their presence stood by me. I wonder if they remember what they wore? I sure remember what I wore to most of my friend’s weddings!

    • Thank you for your kind comment, Ana. I think the bridesmaid is an American tradition and not followed everywhere. I am sure that your friends remember what they wore to your wedding as you remember, too. We do that with special events and the clothes that join us on the journey! xx Mel

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